“Mommy, please fix the flowers,” My heartbroken 3 year old recently begged. He was saddened by the loss of flowers that bloom on a nearby tree, and no matter how hard I tried to explain that they would grow again next year, my sweet little boy was still saddened. He wanted the pretty flowers to get fixed and he looked a me to fix what was broken.
It may sound silly to think of flowers as being broken. As adults, we often take for granted that flowers bloom and then die, but for a child, this can be a difficult, unfair concept.
“The flowers were SO beautiful Mommy.”
“They weren’t hurting anyone.”
“Why did they have to die though?”
I don’t know sweetie. I just don’t know.
I Cannot Fix the Flowers
Some questions just have no good answers. I could no more answer those questions than I could fix the broken flowers.
What is harder to accept is that I can no more fix those broken flowers than I can fix a multitude of other hurts my sons have had over the years. I often have no good answers, but God has given me other strengths to pull out at just such moments.
I took Kaleb’s hand. He may not have realized it yet, but I knew that sometimes things must go away so we can notice other amazing things we would not have noticed if we hadn’t looked farther.
I wrapped my arm around his tiny waist, “Look,” I pointed, “See those purple flowers?” There were beautiful dark purple irises growing in a neighbor’s garden just outside our property line. “Have you ever seen them?”
“No,” Kaleb said slowly.
“And those?” I asked moving him slightly to see the lighter ones a bit farther off.
“Nooo,” Kaleb said again. Suddenly he perked up, “Mommy LOOK! That white tree! See it?”
He had noticed a blooming dogwood a few houses down.
“Yes, Kaleb. I see it,” I said squeezing him a bit tighter.
Jesus is the perfect example of death bringing about better things. He died so that we could experience God’s Perfect Love, but the early Christian followers did not understand this at first.
Sometimes we too are so focused on what we have lost, that we forget that God may have placed plans even more spectacular than our own not too far away. We may not understand everything, but we must learn to look for God’s love, for His beauty in unexpected places. Challenge yourself. Go outside your comfort zone. Reach out. Look beyond your limits and discover what may be blooming in your future.
You may not have all the answers, but if you can help your children see the beauty in their particular lives and in every situation, what an amazing gift you have given them.
Beauty From Ashes
The Lord can fix the flowers. He can make beauty from your ashes, but if you do not look for it, you will never notice it is within your reach.
The spirit of the Lord is upon me…
To place on those who mourn in Zion a diadem instead of ashes,
To give them oil of gladness in place of mourning,
a glorious mantle instead of a listless spirit.
They will be called oaks of justice
planted by the Lord to show his glory.
Sometimes, single parents cannot fix the flowers, but they can allow God to plant new seeds.
Always look to God to make beauty from ashes in your life and the lives of your precious children.
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